So it takes a week for an Nt to know something is ”off”.
Its in the little things in daily life.
The social daily life.
Such as ”thank you” on a constant basis.
Or a ”good bless you” for every sneeze.
Nt like this.
When people acknowledge their feelings and confirm their state off emotions.
”Oh, Im so sorry that this happened to you, I know how you must feel….”
Instead off, ”what do you need right now? What can I for you?”
Its really hard to grasp (for a solution based mind).
That confirming what is felt is better than a solution for those bad feelings.
Its not that we don’t have empathy for others.
On the contrary, its precisely thats why a solution is the best answer.
We care.
And we are called ”cold”.
How funny is that.
2 Comments
Laina Eartharcher · November 5, 2017 at 1:44 am
Excellent point! ??????. The irony/hypocrisy is thick in NTs, no? ??
Aspie girl · November 19, 2017 at 8:09 am
I never know what to say when people tell me about their problems. A lady at work suffers from arthritis and seemed to be in a lot of pain. I looked up all kinds of treatments on the net and told her about it, but I never said, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry you have to go through this, blah blah blah.’ What good would that do?
And I don’t like saying bless you when someone sneezes, so that one guy used to say ‘Thank you’ real loudly every time I didn’t say bless you when he sneezed, forcing me to say it. I find that annoying, and a bit annoying as well when i eat my sandwich at lunch at work, and every person walking by tells me to enjoy my lunch, which I will whether they tell me to or not.